Flirtexting

Dos and Donts of Flirtexting As you can probably already assume, Flirtexting is when you flirt through texts. There is also Sexting, which is dirty texts. But that's a whole different blog that I think I'll leave up to Kendall to write. She has more experience with that =] I've came up with a list of things that you should and shouldn't do when you first get a dude's number or first give him yours. Dos * Do text him within a reasonable amount of time after you recieve his 7. Send him a friendly hello within the first couple days of getting his digits. Introduce yourself and keep it classy. * Do get to know him. Ask him about himself. And tell him about yourself. * Do send smile faces and winks when it's appropriate. --> =] my personal fav * Do compliment him without coming off as a whore. Simple things like: you looked way cute today.... ;) * Do ask him out over a text. That way you can avoid all the awkwardness that you can sometimes come across during a face to face conversation. (some dudes would prefer to be asked out in person though, so idk, use your best judgement) * Do text him after a date, and tell him thank you. Even if you plan on never going out with him again. A simple thank you is okay. If you plan on seeing him again...."thanks for the great time tonight..cant wait 2 see you again =] " * Do text him daily. Even if it's a simple Good Morning ;) or Hey, how are you? If he doesn't wanna text back, then he won't. * Do have fun when texting him. * Do send him classy pics if he asks for one. With your face in the pic and a nice smile. Sexting would include a boob shot. Not flirtexting. Keep it clean. Don't come off easy. :) * Do tell him you miss him making you smile. :) Dont's * Don't talk about sex within the first week of meeting this dude. You will come off as a hooker whose just looking to score. If that's the case then you should be sexting, not flirtexting. * Don't confess your undying love towards them...right away. =] You'll most likely come off as desperate, and I hear that's a major turn off. * Don't text one word texts. This is annoying and unnecessary. You might as well not even text them then, or waste your time. * Don't use lol after EVERY single sentence. It's okay to lol often, but not too often. or even l(ing)mao is okay too. * Don't talk about serious serious issues while flirtexting. Nothing too personal either. Im sure dude doesn't care about your last period, or the fact that you're having mixed feelings about your sexuality. * Don't go long periods without texting..or even calling...him. It's okay to play 'hard to get', but don't play 'so hard you'll never get me'. * Don't bitch and bitch about something to him. Chances are he could care less anyway. And you're going to send him running. * Don't go overboard and hound him with texts. * Don't send forwards. Period. They're lame and useless. And come off as being childish or having no life. * Don't resend the text more than twice if he's not responding. If he's not getting after sending it twice, then he's simply 'not getting it.' Use these as guidelines. Of course each guy is going to be different, but it's up to you to use your best judgement sweety. Oh, and I would like to point out that I spoke with a dude to collaborate this list. So it's pretty legit =] He also said it was okay to use cutesy nicknames with him. But idk. I think that was just that guy in general. lola (laught out loud alot), =] L

Choices??

Relationships are not meant to be an easy thing. I wish they were something that you didnt have to put a lot of thought into. But unfortunately, they're pretty much the opposite. They take a lot of work, and a lot of thought. So what do you do when youre not sure what to do? I mean you could just guess, and see what happens. Thats how I like to live life. I mean it just makes it a lot more interesting. =] What if you make the wrong choice? Well that's life, and shit happens. You never know. You could make the right choice in the end. I live one day at a time. I take one choice at a time. Everything. Why not? But not everyone is like that. So what do you do when you feel like your relationship is going nowhere and you're just stuck? Well you should dump this dude, cause obviously he's holding you back somehow. If you're questioning your relationship, then I'm not sure why you're still in it. Obviously he's not 'the one' if youre questioning your feelings for him. And I dont even think 'the one' exists. But who knows. If you stick with this guy, and are questioning your feelings for him...then you'll probably end up doing something that you will later regret. AKA cheating. Well unless you're one of those chicks that has no guilty conscience. Which is pretty hard to come across nowadays. Cheating just sucks. I've been cheated on too many times, and idk if I could bring myself to cheat. But that's your own personal opinion. If you want to be a maneater though..I would reccomend being single. That way there is no guilty conscience to get in the way. And nothing to regret later. =] So: questioning your feelings---> Ditch the dude. or cheat---> and possibly regret it later. Weigh your pros and cons. It's up to you chick. You rock either way! xo L

when in doubt...

do you

• get the feeling your current boyfriend isn't the one?
• know that you like someone else, a lot more than you like the one you're with?
• just not into the guy your dating?

so why do you stay with him? My friend Amanda is from Minnesota, and a small town to boot, and all her HS class mates are getting hitched, well...they have all been dating the same guy since they were like freshmen. And she made the comment that she wishes she had found the one in HS, but I think those girls are kinda scared to try new things. They can't make it on their own, like we can. I think when we feel in doubt, before we make a big commitment,(aka marriage), or just need to figure some crap out, we should sit down and write what we want. In a relationship, life, for the future. Ya know, people who have gotten what they want, didn't have it handed to them, they had to work, work for it. What if everyone shook up the world a little? Wouldn't it be fun? xo-K

one sided relationships

Ladies. Eventhough some things are obvious, we still remain to be oblivious to them. Like how awesome-ly cool we are. But seriously. The Ting Tings say it well... You say,It's not what you do It's what you're thinkin' of Well I think it's just an excuse,It's what you put across. 'Cuz I don't wanna be the one Only overjoyed Yeah, I don't wanna be the one Makin' all the noise Yeah, I don't wanna be the one So make sure, you're thinkin' it through You've let me down again Offer me something I know you really meant 'Cuz I don't wanna be the one What you going to offer now? Relationships seem continuously to be a let down for me. And I'm starting to think that may be what they will always be in life. But I'm over it. Boys are half, if not fully, mentally challenged in any aspect of love. They do not know what it means. They do not know how to express their emotions, and most of them DO NOT know how to make a girl feel truly special. Duh. Always remember...YOU SHOULDNT BE THE ONLY ONE. In any relationship. You shouldn't be the only one putting forth the effort, going the extra mile, the only one being overjoyed, the only one ANYTHING. If a dude likes you, he should have some input as well. He shouldn't be completely hopeless... If he's not, then you need to ditch him. Play the field. Date some randoms. Do something reckless. Hell...you only live once. Why not live it to your complete fullness? And I promise I won't think any less of you if you play the field a little. or a lot. You test drive cars don't you? Why not test drive love?

Doing it Yourself

Doing it Yourself

*This may get a little racy or inappropriate for some...just to foreworn. But could be quite interesting at the same time. Not too many girls are brave enough to write about this kind of stuff...so here it goes...

Let me start off by defining what Doing it Yourself means, as some people may be a little confused.

• Well in general terms it means masturbating I suppose. That's the simplest explanation.

Whether you use objects such as vibrators, pocket rockets, dildos, or yourself. Your own hand. There are many ways to Doing it Yourself. And all can be very enjoyable.

I am a firm believer that every girl should Do it Themselves from time to time. Now I'm not saying you have to Do it everyday, twice a day, or three times a week. But I do believe that on a regular basis is a good choice.

You should know what feels good, and how to achieve that by Doing it Yourself, in order for you to show someone else what feels good to you.

It's just common sense. Because if you don't know, how are you supposed to show someone else. And believe me....most of the time you have to show guys what feels good to you. Otherwise they don't know. And a lot of guys(not all) don't really wanna take the time to find out what feels good for you during foreplay. So...

You HAVE to show them.

Which is perfectly fine. But why should guys be the only ones to get off? It's pretty easy for most of them. Repetative motion is good enough to send their heads spinning. And from my experience, most guys aren't too picky how 'it' goes down. As long as it does. Girls usually take a little longer to get off. We're just a lot trickier than guys. For the most part at least. Unless ur some gifted hooker who can get off in 30 seconds by the slightest stimulation. Kudos to you, I guess.

But back to Doing it Yourself.

How often?

Whenever you feel like it. Don't feel guilty because you think you may be Doing it too often. Hell, there are no set rules somewhere that you're not aware of. Whenever you feel like Doing it, Do it. For real. I mean within reason....not at the kitchen table during Thanksgiving dinner. That's a little inappropriate. Ha. At least excuse yourself to the restroom.

I have found that the more often I Do it myself, the more relaxed, happier, and care free I tend to be. Now I'm not a 100% certain that this is true, but I'm 89% certain that it is. Or maybe I'm just using that as an excuse to Do it myself. Whatever. =]

Different Ways

There are many many different tools that can be used to Do it Yourself nowadays. When I say many, I mean millions. The best place to get some of these certain tools would be at your local porn shop. And if you don't have a local one, any one will do. I would not reccomend gettting a vibrator or dildo that is 3ft long though. Porn shops have some crazy things, and this should not be one of the things that you are purchasing. Unless you're crazy, then by all means. Go for it you weirdo. The best kind of vibrator I would reccommend purchasing is roughly around 50-60 dollars, and believe me, it's worth it. It comes with something called a clitoris stimulator(which is really what you're going for) that is kind of mounted on top of the vibrator. Wow. Amazing.

Or you can just buy your standard pocket rocket, which works for some girls too. I am not one of them. But I have heard that it works for some. Pocket rockets tend to run a little cheaper than your average vibrator and may be better for beginners.

Or if you don't feel like purchasing any tools to Do it Yourself. Yourself is just fine too. Get to know your body, and don't be ashamed. A bolt of lighting will not come down and smite you or whatever. I promise.

And I promise that no matter how many girls say that they don't Do it Themselves, they actually do. They're just to scared or whatever to be open and honest about their body. That's their issue, and doesn't have to be one for you. The only way to find out what you like, is to find out yourself. You'll truly be able to enjoy any sexual experience better. I promise.

xoxo L

these days

Latley, I don't feel like I fit in. I have changed into the kind of girl I wish I was when I was in high school. College did that too me. I made the best friends, but I don't get to spend time with them like I used too. I love the girls I work with, but I hate that they are 16 and are immature. Why do I feel like I have no purpose in life. All I do is work, and watch TV with my parents. I can't say no to people. I feel like if I don't make everyone happy that wants things from me the world will fall apart. I need to do two things 1. get more friends my age 2. find a boy that would want to date me. xo. k

Sugarcoating It.

I really like to read and learn. Since I have a lot of spare time on my hands lately, I have spent a lot of time reading. I like to get books from St. Vincent de Paul's because they are DIRT CHEAP. I got 7 books from there for 3.50. You can't even buy a magazine for 3.50! But I really like to read those Harlequin romances. They are small (I can finish one in a day), the guys on most covers are hot like fire, and the love in the book is something that I want to expirence. I read my first romance when I was a senior in high school, and i thought it was dirty! It wasn't even close to as naughty as one i read this summer, where he put cherries in her and ate them out and licked imported beer off her and put it in her butt...(I think I need to read it again). In the end all the books are the same.

• He rescues her, or she rescues him. Someone is always rescued. No one can just be ok, they need rescuing. So, I need to be rescued in order to find the love of my life.

• One of them is rich. Or has enough money to live comfortably for the rest of their lives. So I guess that the man of my dreams will be rich. I can't wait.

• When they touch each other, like when they first shake hands, bump in an room, whatever, a shock runs through them. More then electricty. So, now I will start to touch every man I see. I will see how that one goes.

• Kissing each other is like nothing they have ever felt before. It's like Miss. K always tells us about the love of her life. I don't even want to go on about this kissing shit.

• He always is tall/dark/handsome/mysterious/built. Always. She is pretty much always thin, blonde, with average size boobs. Oh well, no romance for me I guess.

Well, as much as I love reading romances they make me feel a little empty inside. They never fight. They think about each other all the time. And the worst part is that all though the men are totally boneable, they aren't real. I know that I will not marry any man that women envy, and I am cool with that! Why can't they write a real one! One more thing, I think Lil' Wayne should always wear a shirt. I can see his ribs. NOT HOT.