to move on or not to move on

MOVE ON!!!!!! Ugh. How many damn times do I have to say this. Just do it. Move on and don't look back. Fate works in mysterious ways, this is totally true ladies. So let it work already! You can't spend your days waiting and swooning over some guy. Any guy for that matter. They're not worth it, and they come a dime a dozen. Meaning: there are a million and one guys out there. Don't waste your time with just one. (If you've made it evident that you like a guy and he's STILL being a wishy washey douche bag, who is totally afraid of any type of commitment, then ditch his ass. Let him toy with someone else's emotions.) Because he's not Hannah Montana, and his ass can't have the best of both worlds. So delete him from your life and consider youself lucky to have such learning experiences in your life. They only make you stronger and wiser. xxxxx, L

Happiness

I know you'll read this. And you may be upset that I didn't bring this to you first. And I'm okay with that. Finally I'm okay with that. I've been tip-toeing around your emotions, holding things back, because I didn't want to do anything to upset you, in fear that that may be the last time I would ever talk to you. But I can't live life like that. I need you to know. You say you care, but you have things going on in your life right now. Okay. I get it. [I'm blonde, not mentally challenged]. You say you mean/meant everything you say/said. And you're not sure why I find it so hard to believe. Now I know why I find it unbelievable. Soulmate: Noun; Verb; The first time you glimpse at each other you are immediately drawn to each other, extremely different than ever recognizing anyone you have ever met before. You already know them, feel who they are. Then you speak and realize this is the most amazing person you have ever met and you feel unnaturally comfortable with them. Instead of wanting to know the "basics" about them it is like meeting an old friend you haven't seen in ages and it is time to catch up. This is the person you have been searching for. In that moment the longing stops but you don't realize until you are forced to be apart. This person completes you on a spiritual level and anything could happen, good or bad, one look in their eyes brings a smile to your face and peace to your heart. Suddenly everything you have worked for in your life becomes clear and the path you were unsure of following is now being lit for the both of you to follow. All your fears vanish and you no longer question your purpose in life because together the purpose evolves on its own. You find their insecurities as parts of their soul you need to heal. Mutual understanding and respect. Days filled with laughter. Even if you are sitting next to each other, touching each other, it still feels like they are miles away because that person could never be close enough yet at the same time it feels like you are melting together and your spirits are dancing. I know it's lengthy. But this is what a soulmate (I doubt I could even define it better myself, in my own words) is. This is what I experienced... This is not how you feel. And now I realize this. Why am I waiting for you, when you can't or simply won't do the same for me. This makes me seem mentally challenged. This proves how 'blonde' I can be. I want to remain your friend. But now I know we may never possibly be more than that. And I can finally say I'm okay with that. I'm okay to be really good friends with you...We had a good run while it lasted, right? We made eachother happy when we could. But life happens, and people change. [Change in short amounts of time apparently]. I believe you may have found true happiness somewhere else, and now I'm going to try and do the same. xo

Choices??

Relationships are not meant to be an easy thing. I wish they were something that you didnt have to put a lot of thought into. But unfortunately, they're pretty much the opposite. They take a lot of work, and a lot of thought. So what do you do when youre not sure what to do? I mean you could just guess, and see what happens. Thats how I like to live life. I mean it just makes it a lot more interesting. =] What if you make the wrong choice? Well that's life, and shit happens. You never know. You could make the right choice in the end. I live one day at a time. I take one choice at a time. Everything. Why not? But not everyone is like that. So what do you do when you feel like your relationship is going nowhere and you're just stuck? Well you should dump this dude, cause obviously he's holding you back somehow. If you're questioning your relationship, then I'm not sure why you're still in it. Obviously he's not 'the one' if youre questioning your feelings for him. And I dont even think 'the one' exists. But who knows. If you stick with this guy, and are questioning your feelings for him...then you'll probably end up doing something that you will later regret. AKA cheating. Well unless you're one of those chicks that has no guilty conscience. Which is pretty hard to come across nowadays. Cheating just sucks. I've been cheated on too many times, and idk if I could bring myself to cheat. But that's your own personal opinion. If you want to be a maneater though..I would reccomend being single. That way there is no guilty conscience to get in the way. And nothing to regret later. =] So: questioning your feelings---> Ditch the dude. or cheat---> and possibly regret it later. Weigh your pros and cons. It's up to you chick. You rock either way! xo L

the friend approval test : part deux

This weekend, I met one of my very best friends for her 22nd birthday. It was also the first time I got to meet her boyfriend, who I will refer to as Ryan. Well that is his name. Anywhy this was the first time I met him, and guess what! I AM NOT IMPRESSED. Miss Manda can do so much better. He's not funny. He treats her like crap. He isn't that nice. He's not even smoking hot. She can do way way way better. And I told her. I don't know, I feel as though Ginger and I have very very different opinions on what a relationship is. Maybe I just feel like you shouldn't have to give anything up because I am stubborn, but at the same time, I don't think he should have to change either because he should be perfect. right? xo k

these days

Latley, I don't feel like I fit in. I have changed into the kind of girl I wish I was when I was in high school. College did that too me. I made the best friends, but I don't get to spend time with them like I used too. I love the girls I work with, but I hate that they are 16 and are immature. Why do I feel like I have no purpose in life. All I do is work, and watch TV with my parents. I can't say no to people. I feel like if I don't make everyone happy that wants things from me the world will fall apart. I need to do two things 1. get more friends my age 2. find a boy that would want to date me. xo. k

Dating vs 'Dating'

Is there a difference?

Only a HUGE one!

Too often people are confused or have mixed signals between dating and 'dating.'

Dating is: When you are causally seeing someone. Maybe on a regular basis, maybe not. Nothing is set in stone, but there is a little connection between the two of you. You could be dating this one specific person, while dating another one. You might make out here or there and make waffles on ocassion. It's nothing too serious. But something to be taken into consideration at the same time. A very confusing sort of thing. Most definitely.

'Dating' is: When you are offically with this specific person. There is no other one that you would want to be with at this very specific moment. You are boyfriend and girlfriend. A couple. YOU make out and make waffles with this person only. Well in an ideal world, that's how it would be. Whatever, all that jazz.

Too many people get the two of them mixed up and muddled together.

Love is such an odd thing.

But yet it happens.

So is there a way to tell the difference between the two, so you're not giving this guy your heart when all he wants to do is casually date? Well duh of course there is!

Signs he wants to date:

• you hang out at his house more than publically. Like his house all the time.
• He doesn't introduce you to his close friends. Random strangers doesn't count as friends.
• He seldom looks into your eyes. Like a close connection.
• He rushes you out of his house the 'morning after'
• There is a lot of awkward silence, and you're not sure what to talk about most of the time.
• He makes plans at the last minute. He doesn't want to commit to anything too serious with you.
• He calls you dude.
• You could go days without hearing from him.

Signs he wants to 'date':

• He calls you. You don't always have to be the one to call him.
• He listens to what you have to say.
• He likes being seen in public with you.
• He asks you to hang out.
• He holds your hand where other people can see.
• He looks in your eyes.
• He sends cutesy texts that make you smile.
• He shares his feelings with you.

These are just a few examples. I mean every guy is different in their own way. But I believe these are some good guidlines to go by. And if he can't make up his mind whether or not he wants to date or 'date' then you should ditch him. Cause you are way too cool to deal with some lame ass punk bitch. =]

xoxo Lacey Mae