realization

As the title states. I have came to a realization. It just dawned on me! Girls and guys are almost the exact same! This is why we're so confusing to each other. We try too hard to figure eachother out. We just assume that we're so entirely different that we have a hard time, grasping the fact, that well...we're not so different at all. For example: We both tell eachother what we want to hear. You can't say that you don't. Even if you don't mean it. You still tell the opposite sex what they want to hear, so you wont have to deal with the consequence of telling them what they don't want to hear. And this can be anything from, no you don't look fat in those jeans, to...no sweety, you really are the biggest penis I've ever seen! And omg, you're so amazzzzzing in bed (that can go both ways). I mean, honestly, I mean maybe 65% of what I say to boys. At least I have enough balls to admit it. I hate hurting their feelings. They're just like little puppies when they get those pouty faces, and damnit. I can't say no, and I can't be honest with them. So I make shit up to save their feelings. Men do the same thing to women. It's the god forsaken truth. Oh well. It's a vicious cycle that will most likely never ever stop. And I mean, while it lasts, I think I would honestly want to be told some made up crap to save my feelings. For now, at least. I know it'll probably hurt me in the long run, but that's how life is. Full of ups and downs and bullshit. You grow up and get over it. Or you don't grow up (like me) and get over it still. We both enjoy sex (men and women), like to the extreme. Which is totally and 110% okay. And you want to know what? Men and women both enjoy an ocassional booty call. Dude, that's okay too! Who wants commitment 100% of their life? Especially when I'm fucking 21 years old?!?! Ahhhh, yeah, not me. That's for sure. So if I want to call up an old fling, on one of those lonely nights, for a hook-up... Then, damnit I'm going to. And want to know what else? I'm going to enjoy every minute of it. Unless it's that one hook up that wasn't so good. [Note to self: Make sure this booty call, is worth making the call in the first place. 5 minutes of pleasure for him is more like 30 sec of agony for me.] Oh, and if you're going to sit there and judge me, and say you don't like the ocassional booty call. Then you're in denial. Or some sick freak of nature. But hey, kudos to you! :P So just remember the next time you're trying to figure out your current dude, that he's probably trying to analyze you as well. And you're both probably failing miserably at it. But who cares! That's life. And you're going to learn as you go. Which is how it should be. But as stated in previous blogs...keep your guard up! And keep current on lipstick lullabies for tips and tricks to be one step ahead of the testosterone type. Because you can never be too clever. Or witty. Or charming. xo, L

Your Exxx(es)

It happens all the time. Maybe too often. You date someone. It doesn't work out. They're now your Ex. Life goes on, or at least it should... But sometimes, something happens that may invovle the two of you getting back together. Is this a good thing? Hmm well. That all depends on the situation I suppose. Why did you break up? Who did the breaking up? What kind of feelings were there? Was it a nasty break up, or one of those nice, 'mutual' things? Can you ever really get back together with your ex? or for that matter, should you? Now, if things ended with the two of you loathing eachother and wanting to kill one another, then, no. You should not get back together with this person. Ever. Things will not work out, no matter how hard you try to work at it. You'll always have some sort of hatred for this person, which can never be a good thing. People and feelings don't always change. In fact, they rarely ever change. They can claim to be a different person, but half of the time, they're complete liars. They're probably even lying to themselves about changing, and don't even know it. What if your ex cheated on you, and that was the cause of the break-up. Should you give them another chance? AH HELLOOOOOO?!?! No. You. Should. Not. Trust me. From personal experience. Once a cheater, Always a cheater. The end.

What if it was a mutual break-up?

These are probably the most common kind of break-up. Well it usually invovles someone trying to convince the other person, that it's not you it's them, kind of thing. Which is bogus most of the time. But it eventually leads to some sort of mutual agreement for a break-up.

And most of the time, when you get back together with your ex, this is the easiest circumstance to do it. I'm not saying that things are going to work out and be perfect. No way jose. But there's always that slight possibility. But.

From personal experience. I've gotten back together with previous exes. It hasn't worked out in any of those cases, yet. And I doubt that it ever will.

You broke up. There was a reason you broke up. Let fate run its course, and stay broken up. Don't go crawling back to this person and look like a douche once it fails again. That's just pathetic.

And in 99% of time, you can do way better! xoxoxxxx,

L

Uncertainty

I've never been one to be uncertain of many things.... Ha ha. Who am I kidding? I'm on of the most uncertain people you could ever meet. BUT. When I know I want something...I know for sure. And I go for it. No holding back, no regrets... BUT(and there always is one)... What happens when you're not the uncertain one? What happens when you like someone and you're totally going after this person, but they're not making that extra effort. Not taking that extra step? What then? How does one resolve such an issue? Damn. Here's where my current experience comes in. I have learned that men are indecisive. Now, speaking as one of the most indecisive people(female) out there, I can honestly say that they may be even more unsure of certain things, than I am. Scenario: This dude asks you to hang out. You do. It's awesome. The two of you have lots of fun when you hang out. You have tons in common. You make out from time to time. You cuddddddlllee lots and lots. He says he likes you. You say you like him. He comes and sees you at work lots. You text all the time. And he says the cutest things..most of the time. He makes you happy. He says you make him happy. You get hyper and stay up all night with eachother. He tells you he wants to take things slow. Cool. New. But, very cool. He hasn't tried getting in your pants yet. Wow. But very nice. Very respectable. He says you're 'seeing' each other. But do not have official dating titles yet. Okay? That's the scenario. Questions? Comments? Concerns? CONFUSION! Resolution. Not an answer, but pretty close to one I think... Where do you go from here? Well, after you've made it obvious that you're totally into this dude, and like him. And he knows it, then there are simply two options. Wait around. or Ditch him. While, you may be searching for additional options to weigh, there are none. Just trust me on this. I know from lots of experience. Waiting around: Is he worth it? Will it(as in relationship) be worth it? How long is he going to make you wait? Do you think you have someone better out there for you? Is he just stringing you along? How long should you 'wait' or take things slow for? While I believe that in taking things slow, the relationship will develop on it's own, I also believe that, some guys like to feed you bullshit. They want to tell you what you want to hear, so you'll stay of off their back. But in most cases this only happens when you're sleeping with this person. SO...if you're not having sexual relations with this person, then they probably have actual feelings for you. And probably really do want to take things slow. Which is awesome. So you should wait, until you feel it's appropriate. I mean, you shouldn't be 'seeing someone' for months on end, and nothing develop from that. Because then they're just stringing you along, and are probably 'seeing' several other chics at the same time. Weigh your options. Think wisely. Ditch him: Call it quits. Tell him that, if he's not sure of what he has right in front of him (which is obviously amazing!), then he'll never be sure of anything in his life. Don't be friends. The end. So as for me? Hmmmm. For now, I'll be a little more patient than normal. But I'm not going to wait forever. xoxo, L

Maybe.

Is it so wrong to dig more than one guy at the same time? I mean it's not like I am fucking them. I feel bad only because the edgy one, told me that not only did I make him believe that he was my favorite boy, but my only. ok, so wtf. I must be a good actress then. and now I feel like I am leading the comfortable one on. so I told the comfortable one that I can't do it anymore. he had me up on this stool and made me seem like the most amazing girl on the planet. I'm not. I feel like with the comfortable one, things would get too...comfortable. With the edgy one, i think it would change a lot. I think the comfortable one would want to do the normal get married thing. And I want to get married but not for a long time. I want it with someone that will keep me on my toes. But since I fucked it up, I guess that's not going to happen. But the edgy one has a zillion myspace girlfriends who tell him how much the love him. Ya know what he told me? that those are groupies. wtf. he has groupies. but how I am supposed to know he doesn't say...I wrote a poem about you, to them too? I don't know. He goes on dates all the time. whats up with that. The edgy one also wouldn't call me, he said he was shy on the phone. But he didn't have a problem sending me a picture of his penis... I can't wait to go to bed an cry a little. becuase I seem to have just lost the best thing that would never happen to me. ugh. xO K

You Say It Best....

I think most girls have a problem with what boys tell them. And it's not like they are telling you that you have a gross body and you make them want to throw up. It's the good stuff. It's the stuff that's like... I can't wait to wake up in the morning to see you. You are so beautiful. You are the complete compliment to me. I bet you look good, but then again you always do. I want to kiss you and hold you tight. You're amazing inspiration. You're gorgeous. You're my soulmate. Making you smile, means the world to me. From a young age, girls are brought up to beleive that when boys say things like this, it's just to get into our pants. But what if they really mean it? What if they don't? I mean, the nicest compliments I get are from my friends. Why is it so hard to imagine that someone would say this to a girl and mean it? Probably because things like this only happen in chick flicks. Not to normal girls like me. I can hope all I want, but when it's really happening, it doesn't seem real. xo K

Sexual Tension

Let's talk about sex baby. Let's talk about you and me...

We all enjoy sex. Not just sex, but anything sexual. And for those of you who are still virgins, kudos to you. At times I wish I were still. But I am young and vital, and this body will not last forever. So why not experience all that I can now?

But as I was saying, we all enjoy it. Whether it be:

• Kissing
• Cuddling
• Oral
• Making out
• Dry Humping

or Sex-sex itself.

There are many different ways to do it. And many ways not to. Boys worry too much when it comes to this. When they worry about doing it wrong, too much, you get this little thing called

Sexual Tension

Okay, so it's not such a little thing. Now, I can't speak for every girl, while I write this blog. Because to be 100% honest (which many ppl are to scared to be) I enjoy sex a lot. And some girls may not enjoy it as much/often as I do. I think maybe sometimes too much. But I am human, and this is how I feel. So whatev. It's just an all around enjoyable experience.

Well most of the time....

So I'm not trying to sound like a whore or hooker, but I would like to think that I've experienced good and bad sex. I lost my virginity when I was 16, and have had more than one partner since then, but not many. I remember and know every guys' first and last name, and know the order in which I slept with them. So my 'number' is not high, but I do not wish to disclose it with you. That is something for me and my closest friends to know, if I choose to tell them. And ladies you should feel the same way.

If you don't wanna disclose private info, dont. It's your life lady.

[Anyway..back to sexual tension]

I'm there. Experiencing it now, and.I.Hate.It. I'm not even sure how to start.

When I like a boy, I; number one, go for their personality. They have to be nice, funny, etc etc. And after that, sexual attraction. The more I like someone, the stronger the sexual attraction is. The more I want them.

Once you've started to date someone and you become intimate with them, and the feelings are mutual...sex, I feel, should be something that comes naturally. It should just feel 'right.' We all know how weird and complicated men are. So what do you do when you find yourself in a situation when you are not, for lack of bette words, 'getting any?' Dang, I don't know. That's where I'm at right now.

Not getting ANY!

How frustrating. I mean I know I could do it myself, but it's not the same. Or I could probably just call up some random, and say hey let's do it! But I try to be a little classier than that. [Most of the time]

If you're in a relationship right now, and not getting any. We should probably reevaluate this so-called relationship again. Sex isn't everything, don't get me wrong. But it's pretty damn important. This is something that you can only share with your partner. Unless you're a whore and share it with everyone. And it should be something that you both enjoy. Beleive it or not, but I have came across a boy or two that does not enjoy sex as much as I do. A BOY! Okay, so I've came across one boy. And here I stand. At a crossroad, you could say. I'm not sure what to do. The sexual tension I have right now is making me so high strung, that I'm about to snap. Making out with someone only goes so far, and only calms my 'craving' so much. It doesn't completely satisfy me. So would this make me a nympho? I guess, maybe. At any rate, it doesn't really matter. I want it, I need it. I'm going to have to have it. [Wow...I probably sound crazy] I hope someone out there can relate to me on some kind of level....I just never thought I would actually come across a guy who over-thinks sex. Usually guys are anything but nervous to get in my pants, and they don't have enough time to actually think about what's going on. They know the basics and that's all that matters to them. So to find one that does, is shocking.

But if something doesn't happen soon, I'll go crazy. So as of now, I have no resolution. Nothing. Damnit.