Post Break-ups

Break ups are so hard to deal with. If you don't have a plan that is. And trust me, I've been through PLENTY of break ups, that I might possibly have a little advice that I could share with you... Now, I'm not an expert or anything, but break ups can go one of two ways: You're doing the breaking up with, or he's breaking up with you. I mean you can always do the mutual thing too, but honestly someone thought of it first, so it falls back into one of the two. -Healthy ways to deal-

• Move on.
• Hang out with your friends. Aka bad ass bitches.
• Take up a hobby to distract you from your ex lover.
• Get a friend with benefits. But DONT get attached to him.
• Work out. It's a proven fact that working out release endorphines which make you feel happy. And hey, you can get a smokin body to make ur ex jealous of. Ha ha. Not healthy. But you'll feel healthy anyway.
• Go to the club. Dance ur hiney off! BUT DO NOT EXPECT TO MEET MR RIGHT THERE. Mr right now hangs out there.
• Listen to up beat music. Cash Cash, Lady GaGa, Cobra Starship, Forever The Sickest Kids.
• Do things that make YOU happy. Things that you normally wouldn't have done when you were with someone else.
• Change up your wardrobe. Try something new. Do a little shopping.
• Do it Yourself.. A lot. If youre anything like me, you'll need to do something to compensate. Go to a porn shop and purchase a nice friend. Anywhere from 20.00-60.00 dollars.
• Ignore calls/texts from your ex. You are SOOOO over him.

-Not so Healthy ways to deal-

• Crying non stop for days.
• Calling his phone private to hear his voice. Come on stalker.
• Checking his facebook. A lot. Noticing how nothing has changed for the past 4 hours. Uck.
• Driving past his house at 4am to make sure he's 'ok' actually to make sure no chicks are at his crib.
• Asking his friends about him constantly. Good way to become a stalker and get a restraing order against you.
• Putting your Coldplay CD on repeat and crying yourself to sleep at night. Or day. Or afternoon.
• Calling/texting him fifteen times in thirty minutes. Let alone in a day. Not cool.
• Overeating, or undereating.
• Becoming an alcoholic. Now binge drinking is one thing. But if youre coming home to crack open a cold one, every night...you need to stop. OR attend AA meetings sista.

Now if youre the one who did the breaking up with, then it's a different story. You should already be over this dude. You're the one who broke up with him. And confusion is not a good basis for any relationship. So just get over it and move on.

Honestly girls, I can guarantee that this guy is already over you and probably has moved on to his next victim. So why waste your time dwelling on the past? There are BILLIONS of people in the world. You'll find youre one sometime somewhere someday. Be patient. Be confident.

xoxo L