Giving it Up

I have had a small infatuation for the past 2 months. It's amazing to have someone call you princess and baby, and they aren't joking. It's amazing to get sweet little texts throughout the day. It's amazing that he makes me feel like a girl. He texts you late at night, and you share secrets. But then theres the fact that you say you will stay a virgin until you meet him. And that he won't come here. He wants you there, and it's not okay to bring your very best friend. I don't even think he really cares about me. I don't go out, I feel so horrible when I talk to other boys. And slowly he stops texting you everyday. You look at his myspace, cuz he's just so gosh darn cute, and he really is. But...there are girls. From all over flirting with him. He tells you they are just myspace groupies. But, I will always like him. But I need him here. Now. And I think He's not all he says. Why would these girls toss around the "L" word so casually if he didn't give him a reason to? I need to delete him. He's the best boy I could ever know. But I am not a very trusting girl, and I don't feel like I should keep trusting him. I need a new obsession. Stamp Collecting? A new boy? Knitting? xoK

Uncertainty

I've never been one to be uncertain of many things.... Ha ha. Who am I kidding? I'm on of the most uncertain people you could ever meet. BUT. When I know I want something...I know for sure. And I go for it. No holding back, no regrets... BUT(and there always is one)... What happens when you're not the uncertain one? What happens when you like someone and you're totally going after this person, but they're not making that extra effort. Not taking that extra step? What then? How does one resolve such an issue? Damn. Here's where my current experience comes in. I have learned that men are indecisive. Now, speaking as one of the most indecisive people(female) out there, I can honestly say that they may be even more unsure of certain things, than I am. Scenario: This dude asks you to hang out. You do. It's awesome. The two of you have lots of fun when you hang out. You have tons in common. You make out from time to time. You cuddddddlllee lots and lots. He says he likes you. You say you like him. He comes and sees you at work lots. You text all the time. And he says the cutest things..most of the time. He makes you happy. He says you make him happy. You get hyper and stay up all night with eachother. He tells you he wants to take things slow. Cool. New. But, very cool. He hasn't tried getting in your pants yet. Wow. But very nice. Very respectable. He says you're 'seeing' each other. But do not have official dating titles yet. Okay? That's the scenario. Questions? Comments? Concerns? CONFUSION! Resolution. Not an answer, but pretty close to one I think... Where do you go from here? Well, after you've made it obvious that you're totally into this dude, and like him. And he knows it, then there are simply two options. Wait around. or Ditch him. While, you may be searching for additional options to weigh, there are none. Just trust me on this. I know from lots of experience. Waiting around: Is he worth it? Will it(as in relationship) be worth it? How long is he going to make you wait? Do you think you have someone better out there for you? Is he just stringing you along? How long should you 'wait' or take things slow for? While I believe that in taking things slow, the relationship will develop on it's own, I also believe that, some guys like to feed you bullshit. They want to tell you what you want to hear, so you'll stay of off their back. But in most cases this only happens when you're sleeping with this person. SO...if you're not having sexual relations with this person, then they probably have actual feelings for you. And probably really do want to take things slow. Which is awesome. So you should wait, until you feel it's appropriate. I mean, you shouldn't be 'seeing someone' for months on end, and nothing develop from that. Because then they're just stringing you along, and are probably 'seeing' several other chics at the same time. Weigh your options. Think wisely. Ditch him: Call it quits. Tell him that, if he's not sure of what he has right in front of him (which is obviously amazing!), then he'll never be sure of anything in his life. Don't be friends. The end. So as for me? Hmmmm. For now, I'll be a little more patient than normal. But I'm not going to wait forever. xoxo, L