Monday, July 6, 2009
true love vs true lust
I don't pretend to know everything. Because I know that I don't know it all. I'm young and still learning. BUT I do know enough. As of now that is. I feel I have learned enough to know the difference between love and what we like to call lust, for I have experienced both.
Do I believe that it's possible to find 'true love'? Yeah, probably
But.
I also believe it's possible to find 'true lust'.
And.
I also believe that people get the two confused way too often. I can honestly say that I thought I have found love before, but turns out, it was just lust.
I guess I should start out by defining the two;
love (noun): The most spectacular,indescribable, deep euphoric feeling for someone.
lust (noun): Often confused with love, it is purely physical attraction and has no lasting effect.
So, now that we know the definition between the two, how can we determine the difference in our relationships? Well...here's where I put my two cents in (which comes from experience):
Love
well as stated, it's indescribable, but i'm going to do my best.
you miss this person [you love], when they're away. you don't necessarily miss their 'sex', but you miss everything about them. their smell, their voice, their laugh, their touch, etc, ect.
they're, quite possibly, on your mind 89% of the entire day. and probably take up most of your dreams.
you often check your phone to see if they've called/text you. when i say often, i mean every couple mins.
whenever you're near them, you feel like anxious, nervous, happy, care free, and just..well, amazing. like they're your healthy drug.
kissing this person [you love] sends chills down your spine, and makes you light headed. it's like a million fireworks going off all at once.
no matter how often you talk to this specific person, it just isn't enough. and at the same time, you're not getting sick and tired of each other.
you may see cute girls/boys but don't really acknowledge them. they don't really matter to you because you'll have all that you need in this person [that you love].
lust
you text/call this person (along with a few others) when you're feeling a little randy, and are looking for a hook-up.
your conversations have no depth, and are often short or one word answers.
it's a one sided relationship. meaning one person is putting forth the effort, while the other is not.
you met in a bar. you never meet your true love in a bar.
you can be making out or having sex with this person, but be thinking about someone/something completely different. sex just isn't exciting to you with this person[you're in lust with].
Or, if the sex is exciting, that's the only connection you may have with this person.
lust is something that usually doesn't turn into love, because most of the time, the feelings are not mutual between the two people. I would never expect something serious to come from this, so [do not] get your hopes up.
I could go on and on, and list numerous things in each category, but until you experience both, you'll never truly know the difference. Love and lust both have their ups and downs. I suppose it just depends where you're at in your life and what you're looking for.
I'm all for love though. The true blue kind. the kind that makes you go crazy.
keepin' it real,
the infamous L
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