Sunday, January 10, 2010

Drama with the EX

This is, kind of, an extension off of the previous blog about moving on. But this is from a different stand point, I guess you could say.
What happens when you start seeing someone, but their previous bf/gf won't let go?
Ugh. And before I delve into this, I would like to state, that I have delt with this in every damn relationship I have ever been in. Every single one of them. It's very very frustrating. Beyond belief. You're seeing someone, dating, whatever, and they are recieving calls/texts/emails/fb posts/etc from their ex....while it's pretty obvious that they're with someone else.
[And I'd like to point out that, it doesn't really matter why they broke up in the first place. It happened. It's over]
I understand that it takes people time to move on. I completely understand, I've been there before. But I've never been one to come crawling back on my hands and knees, to my ex. Especially once I've learned that they starting seeing someone else. Especially then. Why? It doesnt make you look good. And I'm not trying to put anyone down while writing this blog. If you've ever been the one to come crawling back, I'm sorry. My intentions are not to offend you, but rather to open your eyes. So maybe you can learn to not let it happen again. And as I've stated before, and still live by:
Everything (absoultely everything) happens for a reason.
Whether you like to believe that or not, is your choice. But it's truth. The two of you broke up. Yes, it hurts. And yes, at the moment, it sucks. But it means you're not meant to be together. And who knows, maybe in the future, your paths may cross again. And maybe then, just maybe, you're meant to be together. Just not now. So why bother with all the texts/calls/etc, if they're not working? If they wanted to be with you, they would.
Ugh..I guess I'm really not sure what else to write on this topic.
But I would just like to say that being a bitch/jerk is not going to help out the situation either. You're only going to annoy the person you're trying to get back or push them further away. Which should not be your intention. Don't give them a hard time for the new person they're seeing. Because that's a low blow and only going to cause offense and hurt feelings. You should learn to move on and be happy without this person.
Because you have your someone out there waiting for you.
xoxoxxx,
L

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