5 Great Ideas

So, I've spent a lot of time, trying to be someone that boys will like. But I have realized, I don't want to change. I like myself. But I did happen to stumble upon an article in Cosmo about how when girls work there, they often end up engaged and married soon after. Well, I was intrigued. I do not want to be engaged, but I do like good advice when it comes along, and I think these tips help out a lot

Lesson 1- Guys love being off the hook. Basically don't pressure them so much. Don't worry about if this dude is going to be your boy friend, or a boy that's your friend. Just let it happen. When it's right, you'll both know.

Lesson 2-Guys live in the present. Never act all wifey to show that you'll be perfect. Who is planning that far ahead?! Have fun, party, go out, try new things. Who know's what'll happen

Lesson 3-Guys like to be liked. No matter his little quips, don't freak out about them. Unless it's one that you can't stand. (like he plays multiplayer computer games for hours or something that is not cool.) If a guy compliments you or dresses different or just wants to hang out, just roll with it! It's who he is!

Lesson 4- Guys like independent chicks. This is my favorite, DO WHAT YOU WANT. Don't sit around waiting for him to call, don't change plans just for him, do what you want. Guys want what they can't have. But don't make them feel like it's unattainable. And don't be a tease all the time!

Lesson 5-Guys love being admired. Of course us ladies do to, but don't be afraid to tell him how rad he is, or how you got lucky to be admired by such a hottie, or how you envy his lifestyle! It makes him, feel just as good as it makes you feel when he tells you such things.

So, I am taking this to heart. I'm just going with the flow, I'm not over thinking anything, I'm going to do what I want. This week, I had the chance to hang out with a dude (sure it wasn't that good of an idea most likely) but it was the first time in a LONG time I was going to do what I wanted to and I wasn't going to over think it! But then he cancelled :( But it makes me feel good that it was the first time, I wouldn't have done what everyone else wanted me to do.

Keep this in mind.

It's been working GREAT for me in the recent days!

xo-K

The Experiment

The title is pretty self explanatory(this post is kind of old, but I thought I should finish it)... I've been used and abused, kicked to the curb, shot down, walked all over, etc etc. You probably get the point, right? Guys have treated me like shit before. Most guys actually. I mean I've dated a few seldom ones that havent been complete jerks. But they're a dime a dozen, and hard to find, and more often than not, I do not find them. And then, once I think I have found a decent dude, he too turns out to be a complete jerk. So... One day, well probably one night actually, I decided I was going to play this 'game' right back. Give guys a taste of their own medicine. In fact, it was one night at Marleys... So I'm dancing. I spot a cute guy. We dance. He gives me his number. I give him a ride home. He texts me the next day, says he wants to hang out. Cool, I guess. We hang out. I don't really feel a connection with him. BUT. I decide to make him my experiment. I want to know what it feels like when the tables are turned. And yeah I know how bad it hurts to be used, but damnit. I think that it needs to be done. I think every guy who has ever hurt a girl, should feel what it feels like. Should experience the heartache and whatever... So. He falls for me. So he says. He texts me all the time. I tell him what he wants to hear. But, god, he's so self confident and high on his horse. Honestly, I wish you could meet this guy and understand how cocky he is. Which makes this even better. He fueled the fire I guess, and made me want to make him understand. He would tell me about his past relationships and how he's treated other girls like shit, (I kid you not) and then he preceded to tell me that he wanted to settle down with one girl...that girl being me. Ha. Priceless. [Now, don't get me wrong, I had some feelings for this dude. I mean when he wasn't thinking he was god's gift to women, and let me tell you he did, he was decent. But that was only about 25% of the time.] ...anyway. I really made him think that he was something 'special'. Which, he wasn't. And I probably even lead him on, a little. Told him how cool I thought he was and whatever. He would ask me how I felt about him, but I never once told him that I really really liked him enough to date him. 'Cause well, I didn't.

He just assumed.

So this makes me wonder if girls are this easily convinced? Do we just assume that guys like us enough? And that's why they're hanging out with us?

I'd like to think not. I'd love to hope not.

So I was really starting to get sick of this dude. Only after about a month. His assumptions about everything were getting really annoying. But I couldn't find a way to break it off. But him being the awesome dude that he is (sarcasm), I didn't have to...One night we were driving in my car and I get a text message from him..which was weird because he was sitting next to me. And it said something along the lines of 'not being able to wait until he could perform some kind of sexual something or other to me.' BUT the text wasnt for me. haha. Busted. He was heartbroken that I wanted to stop seeing him.

Honestly dude?

Nothing like making himself look like a bigger ass then he already is/was. 'Twas perfect.

Oh, and then I seen him a month later, after totally writing him off. I hung out with him a few more times. He assumed I like him again. And then I told him he was absolutely wrong for me, and I couldn't go on seeing him, when I knew he wanted more. I couldn't find it in myself to 'break his heart' again. Well, let's just say he didn't take it so well and sat outside of my apartment door waiting for me to come out, for about 3 hours.

I didn't come out.

Point being...

I couldn't stoop as low as him.

xo,

L

Meeting boys on the internet.

This is a good idea if you are too shy to meet them in real life.

Boys there just plainly tell you how beautiful you are and how bad they want to fuck you. And lets face it, who tells you that in real life? No one.

That’s why I applaud Craig from Warped Tour. He just walked up to Lacey and said “You’re beautiful.” That’s it! Then we talked a little bit more and it was just a little awkward. And then him and Lacey shared an awkward hug. Nothing more they didn’t exchange phone numbers or myspaces or any of that crap. It was just plain simple stuff that we want to hear.

But back to this online boy stuff…

It’s a good idea to meet people. But no one likeable (for me at least) lives in these parts. And the boys that I do meet and REALLY like, and seem to like me back live in far distant lands like, Missouri and Indiana and Georgia.

See here, I found this boy, and his name was Jeff, and he was the cat’s meow. I called him the Right Jeff as not to confuse him with the other Jeffs in my life, who were all wrong. And then we texted all the time, and he wanted me to come visit. But I couldn’t and he wouldn’t come here. I see this as a red flag. Then I asked if I could bring a friend and he said No. Red Flag numero two! Well, he told me all the stuff that no one has ever told me before, like how beautiful I am, and I how I am ther perfect match for him, and the list goes on and on. Then he didn’t text me for weeks it was probally like 6 days, but I looked at his myspace and all the comments from girls and how much they love him, bothered me. So I was ready to be done!

I turned 22, and started the week with a whole new outlook on life. And then, while shopping for the perfect birthday outfit, He texted me. It was like the world stopped spinning as I looked down at the text that simply said “i miss you”. After an simply conversation I didn’t text hi all night. And I got REALLY drunk. He didn’t even cross my mind as I was celebrating the big deuce.

When I was writing about the perfect girl, I texted all the boys and asked them what the perfect girl was like. He said “the one I am dating.” Once again the world stopped spinning and I didn’t know if he was serious or messing with me to see what I would say back. But then I realized, He told me all the things I wanted to hear, but it was the same thing he whispered in every other girls ear.

I am done with him. I texted him and said “can you do me a favor” nothing…all morning. So I sent “obviously it’s not a hard favor. Just delete me and forget about me.” Nothing. That was 2 days ago, and I have felt A-FRICKING-MAZING ever since. The only thing I wish is that he would have responded to me. Because now I have a feeling, that I will get a text in a week when he has no one better to text. And I am going to tell him off.

So the moral of this story is, Don’t online date/have a long distance relationship. I mean it’s cool and all if you can trust each other, but one thing he said will stand out to me, and should have stopped me from falling head over heels for him. He said “I like you so much it scares me, because I think you could be as bigger of a player as I am.” But in the end I was a player, I had two boys that I really liked and told them that often.

So basically, I will try not to fall head over heels for any boys in the near future.

xo-K