Players

We all know what a player is. And no, I'm not talking about someone who plays in some kind of sporting event. I'm talking about those who use and abuse the hearts of those in the game of love and life. The kind of player, that I wanna punch in the face. We've all came across them in our lives. And if you haven't yet, you just wait. Players are (as defined by the Urban Dictionary): N. Plural form of the word player. See also playa. 1. A group of people, usually guys, who "play" or manipulate others to ultimately get what they want, like sex or money, by using charm, game, and a often, a lot of lies. Usually, they act cool, cocky and think they're "all that" -- God's gift to the earth. However, underneath the game of all players, you will find an insecure person who depends on his player image to build his ego and make himself and others think he's the shit. Players need to feel worshipped. Male players usually call their women some term that reduces them to sex objects, like baby doll. This truly is an excellent definition. I feel as if I have nothing else to write about because this hits it on the head. So, what do you do when you encounter a player in your life? Well that's simple. Run. Don't stick around to see what happens with this jerkface. Players go hand in hand with cheaters. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Once a player, always a player. I could and should tell you a story about this guy named Tyler, but that's a whole other blog, for a whole other day. A quick summary though =] ...he ended up sending me a text that was meant for someone else (while he was in my car with me) that said, and I quote, "Baby, I can't wait to fuck that tight little ass of yours." End quote. Ha. Needless to say, he was shocked. And I wasn't. Because... He's both of them, and he'll never change. So i told him to delete my number from his phone and leave me alone. Anyway... How do you know if your dude is a player or not? Oh, you'll know trust me. Most of the things he does, are for himself. He's very selfish and conceded. He does things when they're convenient for him. Maybe he just got out of a relationship, and youre just a rebound. Sex is all he's about. Goes with the last blog about lust. He never shows true emotions, or shows them too often to try and make you beleive he means them, but really doesn't. They hardly make sense. And try WAY too hard. They try to get in your pants within the first few times of hanging out. If they're a hardcore player, they'll try and get in your pants the first time you hang out. So... Watch out. Players are sneaky. But not smart. They're full of themselves and often leave out important details that eventually get them caught in the long run. And don't you worry, karma is a bitch. And will catch up to every player eventually. xoxo, L

true love vs true lust

I don't pretend to know everything. Because I know that I don't know it all. I'm young and still learning. BUT I do know enough. As of now that is. I feel I have learned enough to know the difference between love and what we like to call lust, for I have experienced both. Do I believe that it's possible to find 'true love'? Yeah, probably But. I also believe it's possible to find 'true lust'. And. I also believe that people get the two confused way too often. I can honestly say that I thought I have found love before, but turns out, it was just lust. I guess I should start out by defining the two; love (noun): The most spectacular,indescribable, deep euphoric feeling for someone. lust (noun): Often confused with love, it is purely physical attraction and has no lasting effect. So, now that we know the definition between the two, how can we determine the difference in our relationships? Well...here's where I put my two cents in (which comes from experience): Love well as stated, it's indescribable, but i'm going to do my best. you miss this person [you love], when they're away. you don't necessarily miss their 'sex', but you miss everything about them. their smell, their voice, their laugh, their touch, etc, ect. they're, quite possibly, on your mind 89% of the entire day. and probably take up most of your dreams. you often check your phone to see if they've called/text you. when i say often, i mean every couple mins. whenever you're near them, you feel like anxious, nervous, happy, care free, and just..well, amazing. like they're your healthy drug. kissing this person [you love] sends chills down your spine, and makes you light headed. it's like a million fireworks going off all at once. no matter how often you talk to this specific person, it just isn't enough. and at the same time, you're not getting sick and tired of each other. you may see cute girls/boys but don't really acknowledge them. they don't really matter to you because you'll have all that you need in this person [that you love]. lust you text/call this person (along with a few others) when you're feeling a little randy, and are looking for a hook-up. your conversations have no depth, and are often short or one word answers. it's a one sided relationship. meaning one person is putting forth the effort, while the other is not. you met in a bar. you never meet your true love in a bar. you can be making out or having sex with this person, but be thinking about someone/something completely different. sex just isn't exciting to you with this person[you're in lust with]. Or, if the sex is exciting, that's the only connection you may have with this person. lust is something that usually doesn't turn into love, because most of the time, the feelings are not mutual between the two people. I would never expect something serious to come from this, so [do not] get your hopes up. I could go on and on, and list numerous things in each category, but until you experience both, you'll never truly know the difference. Love and lust both have their ups and downs. I suppose it just depends where you're at in your life and what you're looking for. I'm all for love though. The true blue kind. the kind that makes you go crazy. keepin' it real, the infamous L